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"All
you owe any person in the world is love, and love is wishing for
everyone what you wish for yourself - health, happiness, and all the
blessings of life."
... Dr. Joseph Murphy, The
Power of Your Subconscious Mind
"How can you
mend a broken heart?"
... is one of the most sought
after answers for so many people. There are hundreds of self-help
books that deal with answering this question and hundreds of self-help
programs to help people "mend their broken hearts." A
"search" on Yahoo produces 1,720,000 results ... this is how
varied the responses are to this question of the heart. And for
most people the self-help books, seminars, love and relationship gurus
and Internet websites ... will do little to help them. I can
honestly tell you that I have had lots of experience in dealing with the
"broken heart" experience ... personally. So, the answer
that I know is the Truth, is from personal experience and from the
experiences of the many hundreds of people who have come to me for
spiritual counseling regarding this subject.
The answer lies in the
question ... and it is a "tough" answer at that ... one that
few people will honestly deal with ... because the answer
"appears" to lack compassion ... and so people will talk
around it ... write around it ... and dance around it ... but
unless and until the answer is discussed directly and without
emotionality ... the experience will be "smoothed over" but
never "healed" ... and may be experienced over and over again.
And the answer is, "this person is not for you" ... this is
the truth. And even though most people can accept this
intellectually ... by and large, they do not accept it emotionally.
"Broken heartedness" is an experience of
"loss" ... and in Truth, we never lose that which is ours ...
never. And we cannot keep that which is not ours to keep.
Tears, suffering, pleading, begging and prayer ... will not give us that
which is not ours. And thinking that something is wrong with us or
that we must have done something to bring this experience into our life
... will not calm the emotions or change the truth. We must accept
the Truth. "It is the Father's Good pleasure to give to you
.." stated the Master Mind Jesus. But, the Father only gives
us what is ours ... not the person or thing that is not.
So, what is it that will calm the emotions? It
is Love ... not the emotional love that we receive from a person ... but
the Divine Love that flows through our heart as we turn to God ...
blessing the person who is no longer in our life and thanking God for
the strength and faith to love again ... just as passionately and with
just as must hope and trust as we did the first time. It is
trusting to the point of "knowing" that we never lose ... that
God is always preparing something or someone to fill the void in our
hearts. And as we turn in faith to the Infinite, we will find,
without a doubt, that our feelings of love have increased in capacity
and in strength. A deep trust in God ... automatically creates
within us a greater capacity to love and to be loved.
There is a statement that most of you will be familiar
with, "it is better to have loved and lost, than never to have
loved at all." This is not true although it appears to be
comforting to some. The truth is ... is that it is better to love
and to love again and again ... than ever to feel that we have lost.
Feelings of "loss" can bring all kinds of difficulties into
our experience. Feelings of loss can appear in our health,
finances and even in our career ... we can never be sure where it may
show up. We must never dwell on loss. It is the strongest
denial of God we can make.
There is One mind; in this One
mind there is someone for everyone who "desires" to share
their life with someone. Mind already knows who that person is ...
all we need do is trust and know that this person arrives into our life
in the right and perfect time and in the right and perfect way ... and
as they do, we will give them our love, our trust and our loyalty ...
even if they are not the first in whom we have shared these things ...
or the second or the third ... or more ... for Love is never lost,
lessened, or diminished in Power ... and the Power of Love is at the
Center of our Being ... at the core of us ... Love ever-lasting ... Love
without end.
And
So It Is!
Letting
Love Use Me In Its Own Good Way,
Rev.
Bates
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